Stuttering and minimalism go hand in hand
The more I engage in minimalism, the more I realize how beneficial it is to people who stutter. One of the common problems people who stutter face is their difficulties to relax because of physical and mental stress. One thing is to be stressed meeting new people unexpectedly. Another thing is to be stressed in your own house. You can do something about it. In this post we figure out how to declutter your mind and your house, so you feel more abundant and mentally stronger.
The keyword is energy
The rationale of this post is that when you organize and declutter your home, your stress levels go down and that means less stuttering because you have more time and energy to deal with your stutter.
Even Jerry Seinfeld likes minimalism – “I’m a throw-out’er.”
Your home is a garbage processing can
The minute an item enters your home it begins a cycle towards the garbage can. It might take years, decades or a few weeks. Minutes even. But the fact is when you put something into your home the cycle begins. While the item waits to go to the eternal garbage country it takes up space. Space that could be white space. Empty space. White space does not only apply to your physical surroundings; it’s also very important to have white space in your mind.
If you go around and worry about your stuff, your finances, your appearances or whatever it might be, you’re cluttering your mind. Clutter is great for The Stuttering (stuttering externalized and personalized; stuttering as a “thing” outside you.), The Stuttering thrives on your cluttered mind because you don’t have the energy to deal with it.
Things trigger your mind
According to research doctors found that to have patients take their medication, it’s vital to leave cues around. When they see their medication, they pick it up and take it. Easy. Practical. It even has the benefit of helping the elderly. The thing though is that this function applies all the time to all of your things. Things in your home trigger your thoughts, even unconsciously. That’s why you feel relaxed in open, minimalistic spaces. That’s why we have white space surrounding this blog post. We want you to feel good.
Mess = stress
- Clutter bombards our minds with excessive stimuli (visual, olfactory, tactile), causing our senses to work overtime on stimuli that aren’t necessary or important.
- Clutter distracts us by drawing our attention away from what our focus should be on.
- Clutter makes it more difficult to relax, both physically and mentally.
- Clutter constantly signals to our brains that our work is never done.
- Clutter makes us anxious because we’re never sure what it’s going to take to get through to the bottom of the pile.
- Clutter creates feelings of guilt (“I should be more organized”) and embarrassment, especially when others unexpectedly drop by our homes or work spaces.
- Clutter inhibits creativity and productivity by invading the open spaces that allow most people to think, brain storm, and problem solve.
- Clutter frustrates us by preventing us from locating what we need quickly (e.g. files and paperwork lost in the “pile” or keys swallowed up by the clutter). – Psychology Today
You want less stuff to leave enough brain power to thrive without stuttering
Clutter makes us anxious. For the stutterer that is bad. You as a stutterer have more than enough to think about. You don’t need to max out your mind more than you do. But the fact is when you don’t have nice white space in your home; then you have too much clutter. For every item in your home:
- You have to repair it
- You have to argue with your spouse about it
- You have to use it
- You have to look at it
- You have to move it
- You have to move it again
And you also have to worry about it. What happens if it breaks? Then what? Oh, I have to be careful. No no don’t touch that. This is my Home of Modern Art. Don’t touch that. And you find yourself running around in circles to avoid things break. You stumble on toys or books and something breaks anyway. Worry causes stress and anxiety and that relate to stuttering. The less you own, the less you have to worry about and that leaves more brain power to overcome stuttering.
Organizing your garbage is not minimalism; when white space is a goal
Organizing is not decluttering. When you sort things in bins and boxes, your stuff is controlled. You still got it. It’s not gone. Now you have 1500 boxes piling up. Since you haven’t done anything to change, you’ll still continue with business as usual, because you didn’t address the core issue with collecting. When you don’t part with your things, it doesn’t change anything. To make a difference for yourself, you have to declutter your entire home. Not just the small stuff. You have to find white space. White space is there. You just have to see it.
I saw the angle in the marble and carved until I set him free. – Michelangelo
White space is your goal. You just have to carve it out.
You need a system to declutter and free up brain power
First of all, you need to throw out. Take your unused items and sell it. If you can’t sell it give it away for free. A really great way to get started is to think:
All things have to go, what do I want to keep? Another is the Marie Kondo way – here things need to spark joy. No spark? Off to the garbage can.
That must be your guiding point. That is your system. It’s as easy as that. There’s no need to complicate things further.
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With less stuff piling up in your mind, you can perform at a higher level. You will notice that in the process of de-owning you will exercise your mind to be stronger. Without all your stuff, the energy that was spent dealing with it is available for other activities. Now you will have the energy to begin your journey overcoming stuttering.
Do this: It’s really simple. Go to a room and say: All things have to go, what’s the most important. In this way, you detach emotionally from your items.
What it’s really about
It’s not that we want to you become minimalists. The point with this kind of minimalism is to help you learn to focus on what’s important. You will learn to zoom in and figure out what’s important in your life. And then you will begin to do more of what you find important. If you have a million things lying around it’s hard to stay focused. But if you only have a few, then magic happens because now it’s not taking up space in your mind. According to Barbara Oakley, we only have four slots in our brain to do things. If you think about your computer, work, and health, then three is taken. What should the fourth be?
We want you to be able to focus on thriving with stuttering and social anxiety. One step in the right direction is to learn how to focus. You are able to focus when you are surrounded by white space.
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