Books are tools of power if you know how to use them. What’s a better way than to spend the summer reading and end up being much more clever a month or two from now? Vacation is around the corner and for the next months, summer is in the air. And it’s time to grab that Kindle or paperback and hit the beach. Cuz it’s reading time!
I really hate those articles that list 250 books to read this summer. Or 17 apps you must use. No, I don’t want 17 apps on my phone and how on Earth can I read 250 books in 1 or 2 months? At Stuttering Habits, we’re practical, minimalistic, and realistic. Here you have a list of 3 books that every stutterer should read in order to be equipped to overcome stuttering. I don’t care how many of the books you read this summer as long as you just get started with one.
The books to make you resilient and focused
So here it goes:
1. Wishcraft by Barbara Sher
This is the book I am currently reading. It is just amazing. Written over 40 years ago it’s the mother of all self-help books. In most self-help books you get a piece of this and a piece of that but nothing is ever complete. There is always something missing from the puzzle. Not so with Wishcraft. Here you get the whole package.
In this book you’ll get a system to achieve what you want. You’ll learn how to:
- Use your obstacles as a stepping stone to your goal.
- Create a network of contacts to help you.
- Map out what you need to do next.
The exercises span around working as a detective in your own home. And you’ll discover who you also are and what you like to do even though it’s almost unconsciously. You’ll also dream big and then tell yourself why all your dreams can’t come true only to map out the path to achieve all your dreams a few pages on. The book shows you the path from the big dream to the very first step that you can take right now.
“You can waste a perfectly good life trying to meet the standards of someone who thinks you’re not good enough because they can’t understand who you are.”- Barbara Sher
This is the kind of book that if you lend it out, you won’t get it back. So better buy an extra copy if you chose to read the book.
2. The War of Art by Steven Pressfield
He actually wrote me back when I sent him an email. I was astonished. I wrote to tell him, I had a dream where my Muse showed herself to me. She told me to go on with Stuttering Habits; that Stuttering Habits was the only project I should work on and that I should give up being a novelist. So I did.
And here I am getting emails from people in Canada, Kenya, England, Australia, telling me how I have helped them change their view on stuttering. Me being just a small 6’4″ guy in Copenhagen. It’s because of this book.
“Are you paralyzed with fear? That’s a good sign. Fear is good. Like self-doubt, fear is an indicator. Fear tells us what we have to do. Remember one rule of thumb: the more scared we are of a work or calling, the more sure we can be that we have to do it.” – Steven Pressfield
It’s an unusual book. The book isn’t very long. And on some pages, there is more white-space than text. You will read the word “Resistance” a lot. But there is something to it.
I believe that inside of us there is a Resistance pulling us away from what we would like to do. And I do believe that it’s true that when you finally do what you love, then the Resistance gather your friends and turn them against you. The Resistance is: Distraction, apathy, procrastination, fear, excuses, toxic relationships and “compulsive screwing up”.
You’ll get insights to how not to let the Resistance overwhelm you and get on with your work.
The War of Art is one of those books that you will get back to it again and again as a coach teaching you how to do things.
3. A Mind for Numbers by Barbara Oakley
Ever wanted to learn something? This is the book to read. You might wonder why a book about learning is on the list. It’s because the book is also about resilience and going on when it get’s tough. It’s about struggling with something and not giving up. It’s about the process instead of the product.
You’ll learn about chunks and how to form a chunk. And you’ll learn that you can understand something and really believe you understand it only to have the house of cards falling apart and having to reconsider what you’ve learned. This is where the process is important.
“Focus on the process (the way you spend your time) instead of the product (what you want to accomplish).”- Barbara Oakley
You’ll learn about the focused/diffused mode of learning and how to benefit from the diffused mode.
There is also a MOOC on Coursera which follows the book’s outline.
Where to go from here
Alright, maybe you’re not into reading books. Maybe you’re more of a “scanner”, so here you have a couple of articles that will help you as well: